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So, don’t dismiss others’ views of you, but don’t accept them wholesale either.
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But if we’re not okay, then we’re not. …no matter how hard we work to keep the feedback balanced and contained, it just isn’t helping.
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Whether we’re elated or despairing, our emotions can warp our perception of the feedback as surely as a funhouse mirror.
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Learning profitably from feedback is not only about how we interpret the feedback; it’s also about how we hold our identity.
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Identity is the story we tell ourselves about ourselves – what we’re like, what we stand for, what we’re good at, what we’re capable of.
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It’s not just big, important feedback that can knock us sideways. The everyday stuff can trip identity as well…
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…when we get feedback that we are not all, we hear it as feedback that we are nothing.
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No one is perfect…, it’s better not to believe you are – …because it makes it harder for you learn from feedback.
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…you can’t outrun [feedback], and you will collapse trying. Accepting imperfection is not just a good idea, it’s the only choice.
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A growth identity is not about whether you get terrific or troubling feedback. It’s about how you hold whatever you get.
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