Book Titles

…otherish givers are fortified against burnout: through giving, they build up reserves of happiness and meaning that takers and matchers are less able to access.

Otherish givers may appear less altruistic than selfless givers, but their resilience against burnout enables them to contribute more.

…three major traps… plague many givers, male and female, in their dealings with other people: being too trusting, too empathetic, and too timid.

Trust is one reason that givers are so susceptible to the doormat effect: they tend to see the best in everyone, so they operate on the mistaken assumption that everyone is trustworthy.

To avoid getting scammed or exploited, it’s critical to distinguish the genuine givers from the takers and fakers.

Successful givers need to know who’s likely to manipulate them so they can protect themselves.

To judge givers, we often rely on personality cues, but it turns out these cues can be misleading.

…agreeable people tend to appear cooperative and polite – they seek harmony with others, coming across as warm, nice, and welcoming.

Disagreeable people tend to be more competitive, critical, and tough – they’re more comfortable with conflict, coming across as skeptical and challenging.

Giving and taking are based on our motives and values, and they’re choices that we make regardless of whether our personalities trend agreeable or disagreeable.