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Self-compassion begins by replacing searing judgments with basic kindness.

We need the ability to regret our poor decisions – to feel bad about them – precisely so we can improve those decisions in the future.

…eat the cookie. Watch the movie. Read the book. Not everything you do has to be about improving your health, your knowledge, your job, or your body. It’s OK to just be.

…I’m encouraging you to opt out of the quest for happiness altogether. Focus on finding fulfillment, forging your own path, and living a life in line with your values.

People are [also] more highly motivated to assign blame or punish someone when the harmful act is viewed as intentional.

When we complain effectively, we can achieve the closeness, support, and change that we all crave.

Radical acceptance acknowledges that pain is an unavoidable part of life and that fighting back against this suffering typically leads to more suffering.

Complaining helps us feel better, influences how people see us, creates social bonds, allows us to gather information, encourages empathy, and helps create real change.

Positive thinking is an asset in managing disease, but it is not a cure, nor is negative thinking the cause of all disease.

…Harvard shows that when leaders are inclusive, humble, and encourage their staff to speak up or ask for help, it leads to better learning and performance outcomes.