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Overcommitment can be as serious an obstacle to change as believing that you don’t need fixing or that your flaws are part of the reason you’re successful.
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Successful people have a unique distaste for feeling controlled or manipulated.
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People don’t stumble on success; they choose it.
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If you press people to identify the motives behind their self-interest it usually boils down to four items: money, power, status, and popularity. These are the standard payoffs for success.
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People don’t like to be critiqued, however obliquely. That’s why passing judgment is one of the more insidious ways we push people away and hold ourselves back from greater success.
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…there’s a difference between being an achiever and a leader. Successful people become great leaders when they learn to shift the focus from themselves to others.
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When someone you work with steals the credit for a success that you created, they’re committing the most rage-inducing interpersonal ‘crime’ in the workplace.
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…sometimes we blame other people not as an excuse for our failure, but as a subtle way of highlighting our successes.
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It’s not hard to see why people don’t want to hear negative feedback. Successful people are incredibly delusional about their achievements.
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80 percent of our success in learning from other people is based upon how well we listen. In other words, success or failure is determined before we do anything.
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