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Having a greater impact is one of the reasons why, counterintuitive as it might seem, giving more can actually help givers avoid burnout.
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One hundred seems to be a magic number when it comes to giving.
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This is otherish giving: you get to choose who you help, and it benefits you by improving your mood. Economists call it the warm glow of giving, and psychologists call it the helper’s high.
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…otherish givers are fortified against burnout: through giving, they build up reserves of happiness and meaning that takers and matchers are less able to access.
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Giving and taking are based on our motives and values, and they’re choices that we make regardless of whether our personalities trend agreeable or disagreeable.
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Empathy is a pervasive force behind giving behaviors, but it’s also a major source of vulnerability.
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…when we empathize at the bargaining table, focusing on our counterparts’ emotions and feelings puts us at risk of giving away too much.
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Once successful givers see the value of sincerity screening and begin to spot agreeable takers as potential fakers, they protect themselves by adjusting their behavior accordingly.
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…givers tend to be humble and uncomfortable asserting themselves directly.
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Studies in more controlled settings have shown that in zero-sum situations, givers frequently shy away from advocating for their own interests…
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