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Self-control will be most effective if you take good basic care of your body, starting with diet and sleep.
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…the most successful strategies for promoting self-control involve rewards.
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…weak self-control is central to personal and social problems.
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Self-control… is essential for savoring your time on earth and sharing joy with the people you love.
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It comes down to the deep and universal human need for autonomy. People need to feel in control.
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…while we can’t control others’ decisions, we can influence them by inhabiting their world and seeing and hearing exactly what they want.
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…everyone on you meet is driven by two primal urges: the need to feel safe and secure, and the need to feel in control. If you satisfy those drives, you’re in the door.
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…the secret to gaining the upper hand in a negotiation is giving the other side the illusion of control.
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Giving your counterpart the illusion of control by asking calibrated questions – by asking for help – is one of the most powerful tools for suspending unbelief.
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Calibrated questions make your counterpart feel like they’re in charge, but it’s really you who are framing the conversation.
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