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…a narrow, concrete, here-and-now focus works against self-control, whereas a broad, abstract, long-term focus supports it.

…your belief becomes a form of self-control: a self-fulfilling mandate. I think I won’t, therefore I don’t.

Forget about self-esteem. Work on self-control.

The problem with adolescents – from the parents’ point of view – is that they have a child’s power of self-control presiding over an adult’s wants and urges.

Until adolescents’ self-control catches up with their impulses, parents have the thankless task of somehow providing strict external control while at the same time starting to treat the child as something closer to a grown-up.

The more that children are being monitored, the more opportunities they have to build their self-control.

…much of self-control is about integrating behavior over time – passing up immediate gratification for future benefits…

…the basic steps of self-control: setting clear and attainable goals, giving instantaneous feedback, and offering enough encouragement for people to keep practicing and improving.

Instead of going for a quick weight loss today, you’re better off using your self-control to make gradual changes that will produce lasting effects…

…people with high self-control consistently report less stress in their lives. They use their self-control not to get through crises but to avoid them.