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Rules of Estrangement:
Studies show that almost any stress outside of a couple has the ability to reduce that couple’s marital satisfaction.
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Rules of Estrangement:
Sad but true – people often reserve their worst behavior for their spouses.
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Rules of Estrangement:
Horsemen of the Apocalypse: defensiveness, criticism, stonewalling, and contempt. Studies show that no marriage can survive a steady diet of those emotions.
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Rules of Estrangement:
…the rules of estrangement operate in quite a different way and with a different kind of logic than most of your other relationships.
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Rules of Estrangement:
…nothing is more infuriating, humiliating, and devastating than rejection from an adult child. It requires patience, because it’s going to take time.
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Rules of Estrangement:
The more you make your child feel guilty, the more you’re going to shut them down and drive them away.
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Rules of Estrangement:
There’s so much of adult children’s behavior that we personalize that has little or nothing to do with us…
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Rules of Estrangement:
Understanding how to manage the pain of estrangement is one of the greatest challenges most parents will ever face.
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Rules of Estrangement:
The path out of hell is through the misery of accepting where you are right now.
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Rules of Estrangement:
If your child actually dies, everyone will feel sorry for you. If your child stops talking to you, everyone will judge you. At least that’s what it feels like.
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