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One of the traits of highly manipulative people is the ability to both consciously and unconsciously know what people need in order to feel good.
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The avoidance of conflict is at the heart of many estrangements.
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…for most men, marital satisfaction is based not only on how sexually responsive their wives are, but how uncritical they are.
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For estranged parents, there’s not only the pain endured from the loss of contact, but also the loss of identity and self-esteem.
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…it’s critically important for those who are trying to reconcile with an estranged family member to acknowledge/recognize the kernel of health, strength, or desire for mastery in the decision, however mystifying and painful it is to be on the receiving end.
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Rules of Estrangement:
Parents often tell their children ‘We love you all the same,’ but most children know that it’s a lie.
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Rules of Estrangement:
Because siblings typically enjoy the longest family relationships, their ability to influence the other – positively or negatively – over the course of their lives is significant.
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Rules of Estrangement:
…sibling relationships are not influenced by parents as much as we believe.
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Rules of Estrangement:
Misperceptions and hostilities can abound when love and attention are the aspects being measured.
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Rules of Estrangement:
You don’t like it? You’re free to go. Sometimes just affirming that truth to yourself or to the other gives you power.
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