Book Titles

Extensive evidence shows that it’s having high personal standards, not pursuing perfection, that fuels growth.

Expectations tend to rise with accomplishment. The better you’re performing, the more you demand of yourself and the less you notice incremental gains.

Being kind to yourself isn’t about ignoring your weaknesses. It’s about giving yourself permission to learn from your disappointments. We grow by embracing our shortcomings, not by punishing them.

It turns out that when people assess your skills, they put more weight on your peaks than on your troughs. People judge your potential from your best moments, not your worst.

…success is not so much how close you come to perfection as how much you overcome along the way.

Research indicates that one of the best ways to gauge the value of other people’s judgments is to look for convergence between them.

A great deal of research shows that perfectionists tend to define excellence on other people’s terms. This focus on creating a flawless image in the eyes of others is a risk factor for depression, anxiety, burnout, and other mental health challenges.

When our circumstances threaten to overpower us, instead of only looking inward, we can turn outward to mentors, teachers, coaches, role models, or peers.

Too often, it feels like our mistakes pile up, while our accomplishments disappear. With the right support at the right moments, we can overcome obstacles to growth.

Research demonstrates that people who are obsessed with their work put in longer hours yet fail to perform any better than their peers. They’re more likely to fall victim to both physical and emotional exhaustion.