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A profound focus on your partner is, was, and always will be the distinguishing characteristic of an intimate bond such as marriage…
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091 |
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…attention’s selective nature guarantees that even in a close relationship, two partners often focus on different realities.
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093 |
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…it’s important for both partners in a relationship to stay focused on the kind of behavior that brought them together in the first place and to keep it alive.
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097 |
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By actively choosing endeavors that demand your total focus and skillfully using attention to make even inevitable rote chores more engaging, you can blur the distinction between work and play – a hallmark of the focused life.
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099 |
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If an activity is too easy, you lose focus and get bored. If it’s too hard, you become anxious, overwhelmed, and unable to concentrate.
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Sadly, many of us spend much of our time oscillating between states of stress and boredom: different but equally unfocused, unproductive, unsatisfying conditions.
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…no matter what their field, exceptional achievers are characterized as much by their intense focus as their ability.
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105 |
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Regardless of income, teens who spend far more time with their peers than their families end up focusing on significantly fewer of the challenging activities, from studying to sports, that really develop their abilities.
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Over time, a commitment to challenging, focused work and leisure produces not only better daily experience, but also a more complex, interesting person: the long-range benefit of the focused life.
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If most of the time you’re not particularly concerned about what you’re doing is work or play, or even whether you’re happy or not, you know you’re living the focused life.
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