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..there are three basic forms of punishment: severity, speed, and consistency… the most important facet of punishment – and the most difficult one for parents – is consistency.
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Nearly all experts agree that children need and want clear rules, and that being held accountable for obeying the rules is a vital feature of healthy development.
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The problem with adolescents – from the parents’ point of view – is that they have a child’s power of self-control presiding over an adult’s wants and urges.
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Until adolescents’ self-control catches up with their impulses, parents have the thankless task of somehow providing strict external control while at the same time starting to treat the child as something closer to a grown-up.
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As a general rule – with lots and lots of exceptions… – children raised by single parents tend not to do as well in life as children who grow up with two parents.
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The more that children are being monitored, the more opportunities they have to build their self-control.
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Anything that forces children to exercise their self-control muscle can be helpful…
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…much of self-control is about integrating behavior over time – passing up immediate gratification for future benefits…
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…the basic steps of self-control: setting clear and attainable goals, giving instantaneous feedback, and offering enough encouragement for people to keep practicing and improving.
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Success is conditional – but it’s within your reach as long as you have the discipline to try, try again.
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