Book Titles

Small wins may be scattered, but what counts is that they move in the same general direction – away from the stifling situation we are trying to escape.

…in the name of rationality, we make the wrong choice. The lesson is not to throw reason to the wind. It is to trust emotional information, even when we can’t articulate what our gut is telling us.

…when it comes to reinventing ourselves, the people who know us best are also the ones most likely to hinder rather than help.

The acquaintances, neighbors, and coworkers who operate in the same spheres as we do can rarely tell us something we don’t already know because they hear about the same things we do.

Without meaning to, friends and family pigeonhole us. Worse, they fear our changing.

…emotionally, it’s hard to get validation for a new self without making shifts in our social relationships.

When change entails rethinking our very identity, we need substitutes for the people and groups we have to leave behind and role models for whom we might become.

It is important to conduct our ‘role rehearsals’ outside our usual circles because the old audience tends to narrowly typecast us.

Making a career transition… requires psychological safety… we have to be able to test unformed, even risky, identities in a relatively safe and secure environment…

…people… are only capable of being fully self-reliant when they feel supported by and attached to trusted others.