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A profound focus on your partner is, was, and always will be the distinguishing characteristic of an intimate bond such as marriage…
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091 |
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Shaped by your nature and nurture, your particular way of paying attention contributes to your unique perspective, which by definition complicates seeing things from someone else’s.
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092 |
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…attention’s selective nature guarantees that even in a close relationship, two partners often focus on different realities.
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093 |
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…it’s important for both partners in a relationship to stay focused on the kind of behavior that brought them together in the first place and to keep it alive.
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097 |
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By actively choosing endeavors that demand your total focus and skillfully using attention to make even inevitable rote chores more engaging, you can blur the distinction between work and play – a hallmark of the focused life.
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099 |
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Unless you can concentrate on what you want to do and suppress distractions, it’s hard to accomplish anything, period.
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101 |
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If an activity is too easy, you lose focus and get bored. If it’s too hard, you become anxious, overwhelmed, and unable to concentrate.
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101 |
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Either attention or motivation – the drive that impels you toward a goal – can jump-start flow, but both of these major psychological processes must converge to sustain it.
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102 |
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Sadly, many of us spend much of our time oscillating between states of stress and boredom: different but equally unfocused, unproductive, unsatisfying conditions.
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…no matter what their field, exceptional achievers are characterized as much by their intense focus as their ability.
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