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Dare to Forgive:
Holding a grudge keeps the wound festering. The only way to close it is to heal it, and the best way to do that is to forgive.
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Dare to Forgive:
Our strongest instincts lead us to blame, not to forgive.
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Dare to Forgive:
We are wired as deeply as our musical sense or sense of balance to respond to hurt with hurt, pain with pain, insult with insult. Not doing so requires enormous restraint.
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Dare to Forgive:
Once you have been hurt, you naturally soothe yourself by hating the person who hurt you.
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Dare to Forgive:
The condition of life we most want to change is the inevitability of death. Death insults us. It always wins. It mocks our wish for omnipotence and confounds our desire for control.
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Dare to Forgive:
…hatred and the need for revenge originate in the humiliation, rage and betrayal we feel at lacking control. The fact that death is the ultimate proof of our lack of control.
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Dare to Forgive:
When you forgive, you are forgiving not only the person who hurt you, but you are forgiving the conditions of life itself.
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Dare to Forgive:
…life will never be the same. It never is. Each loss changes life forever; the greater the loss, the greater the change.
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Dare to Forgive:
…forgiveness is so hard because it represents giving up on the wish that the past will be different.
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Dare to Forgive:
To sue and fight and pitch a fit is much easier than to accept what happens in life.
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