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By far the most important distortions and confabulations of memory are those that serve to justify and explain our own lives.
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Memories create our stories, but our stories also create our memories. Once we have a narrative, we shape our memories to fit into it.
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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):
…an understanding of memory and self-justification leads us to a more nuanced perspective: a person doesn’t have to be lying to be wrong.
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All of us do grow and mature, but generally not as much as we think.
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…the more you imagine something, the more confident you become that it really happened – the more likely you are to inflate it into an actual memory, adding details as you go.
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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):
Fake memories all ow people to forgive themselves and justify their mistakes, but sometimes at a high price: an inability to take responsibility for their lives.
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…we must also be careful which memories we select to justify our lives, because we will have to live by them.
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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):
None of us like learning that we were wrong, that our memories are distorted or confabulated, or that we made an embarrassing professional mistake.
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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):
More occupations are ultimately, if slowly, self-improving and self-correcting.
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For any theory to be scientific, it must be stated in such a way that it can be shown to be false as well as true.
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