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Blink:
…for a marriage to survive, the ratio of positive to negative emotion in a given encounter has to be at least five to one.
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Blink:
…a relationship between two people has… a distinctive signature that arises naturally and automatically.
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…the Four Horsemen [of divorce]: defensiveness, stonewalling, criticism, and contempt.
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Blink:
…having someone you love express contempt toward you is so stressful that it begins to affect the functioning of your immune system.
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Contempt is special. If you can measure contempt, then all of a sudden you don’t need to know every detail of [a] relationship.
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…it is quite possible for people who have never met us and who have spent only twenty minutes thinking about us to come to a better understanding of who we are than people who have known us for years.
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…our personal belongings contain a wealth of very telling information.
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…you can learn as much – or more – from one glance at a private space as you can from hours of exposure to a public face.
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What people say about themselves can… be very confusing, for the simple reason that most of us aren’t very objective about ourselves.
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…in the end it comes down to a matter of respect, and the simplest way that respect is communicated is through tone of voice, and the most corrosive tone [one] can assume is a dominant tone.
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