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Our lives are made less of small truths and falsehoods that of great truths and the truths than are their opposites, which is why the resolution of basic conflicts is so difficult sometimes.
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What do you want? The majority of us go through life, often very successfully, without ever asking, much less answering, this most basic question.
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The leader knows better than anyone that the fundamental problems of life are insoluble, but persists anyway, and continues to learn.
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We need a few trusted naysayers in our lives, critics who are willing to puncture our protective bubble of self-justifications and yank us back to reality when we veer too far off.
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By far the most important distortions and confabulations of memory are those that serve to justify and explain our own lives.
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…we must also be careful which memories we select to justify our lives, because we will have to live by them.
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Marriage… is the greatest two-way decision of most people’s lives, and couples are enormously invested in making it work.
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The pain of living with horrors we have committed but cannot morally accept is searing, which is why most people will reach for any justification available to assuage the dissonance.
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The art of living with dissonance is as much about coping with the scars on the soul as it is about avoiding them.
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All of us will have hard decisions to make at times in our lives; not all of them will be right, and not all of them will be wise.
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