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Complaining can bring out some pretty complicated emotions because it forces us to face real issues in the world and it often makes us feel helpless.
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Listening to someone else complaining is usually one of the easiest ways to get uncomfortable, especially if we don’t understand… what they’re looking for from us.
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Some things really are worth complaining about.
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Sometimes we get stuck in a complaint loop and have a lot of trouble getting out.
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The goal is not to eliminate complaining from your life, but instead to make it more effective and adaptive.
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When we complain effectively, we can achieve the closeness, support, and change that we all crave.
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If you didn’t experience sadness, you wouldn’t know what was important to you. If you didn’t complain, nothing would ever get fixed.
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Justification and denial rarely work as a response to a complaint because they put the other person on the defensive.
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When we do what we choose to do, we are committed. When we do what we have to do, we are compliant.
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People often complain about the interruptions that prevent them from doing their work. But interruptions are unavoidable in life.
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