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Throughout human history, shared pain has been a bonding agent, fusing identities into ‘we’-based attachments.
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If co-creation causes at least a temporary merging of identities, then what applies to one partner also applies to the other, distributional logic notwithstanding.
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Providing advice puts a person in a merging state of mind, which stimulates a linking of one’s own identity with another party’s.
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…build identity-based habits. With this approach, we start by focusing on who we wish to become.
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The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity.
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The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you will be to maintain the habits associated with it.
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True behavior change is identity change. You might start a habit because of motivation, but the only reason you’ll stick with one is that it becomes part of your identity.
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Your behaviors are usually a reflection of your identity. What you do is an indication of the type of person you believe that you are – either consciously or unconsciously.
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Research shows that once a person believes in a particular aspect of their identity, they are more likely to act in alignment with that belief.
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The more deeply a thought or action is tied to your identity, the more difficult it is to change it.
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