Book Titles

Mistakes Were Made (but not by me)
Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts

By Carol Tavris, Elliot Aronson

Year Published: 2020
ISBN-13: 978-0544574786
Categories: Justification, Mistakes, Psychology

124 Quotes Found

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

As fallible human beings, all of us share the impulse to justify ourselves and avoid taking responsibility for actions that turn out to be harmful, immoral, or stupid.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

The higher the stakes – emotional, financial, moral – the greater the difficulty.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

To err is human, but humans then have a choice between covering up for fessing up. The choice we make is critical to what we do next.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

So powerful is the need for consonance that when people are forced to look at disconfirming evidence, they will find a way to criticize, distort, or dismiss it so that they can maintain or even strengthen their existing belief.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

The confirmation bias is especially glaring in matters of political observation; we see only the positive attributes of our side and the negative attributes of theirs.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

…reading information that goes against your point of view can make you all the more convinced you are right.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

Once we are invested in a belief and have justified its wisdom, changing our minds is literally hard work.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

The more costly a decision in terms of time, money, effort, or inconvenience and the more irrevocable its consequences, the greater the dissonance and the greater the need to reduce it…

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

Rather than cutting their losses, most people will throw good money after bad in hopes of recouping those losses and justifying their original decision.

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Mistakes Were Made (but not by me):

…decades of experimental research have found… when people vent their feelings aggressively, they often feel worse, pump up their blood pressure, and make themselves even angrier.

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